You’ve heard the horror stories and are hoping your college story won’t become a tale of roommate terror. With Labor Day quickly approaching, you’ll find out soon enough whether you’re in for happiness or horror with your new dorm roommate. Ideally it would be happiness, as many colleges work hard to match your habits with your future roommate’s.
Remember that housing questionnaire and those questions about your sleeping habits and your study habits, your social preferences and your cleanliness preferences? Your answers are supposed to magically match you with your perfect roommate.
But sometimes magic fizzles. You scrub the baseboards with a toothbrush, but your roomie uses the floor as a laundry hamper. She blasts Beyoncé when you’re trying to study. And while you’re busy majoring in a serious career path, she’s majoring in frat boys. You wonder if the matchmaking computer paired you up on Opposite Day.
Even if you and your roommate are polar opposites, don’t worry—college is full of differences. Part of growing up is learning to tolerate those differences and to accept and even appreciate them. Who knows, this might be an opportunity to expand your horizons and develop some beautiful friendships!
To get there, you’ll need to reach inside yourself and find compromise and communication skills you didn’t know you had. The right attitude and a preplanned strategy will make that process much easier with your roommate.
- Reach out in advance. Many colleges provide your roommate’s contact information well before move-in day, so take this opportunity to call your future roomie and get to know her. Find out about her interests and personality, and let her know about yours. This will make your first in-person meeting much less awkward—you might even look forward to it!
- Decide what to bring. You don’t need two mini-fridges or two TVs, so during those first phone calls, divvy up who will bring shared items. The college should supply each of you with a desk, so it’s safe to bring your own computer and school supplies. Of course, you’ll each bring your own personal items. A good organization strategy can help keep those items safe from the “borrow without asking” roommate. From cosmetics organizers to jewelry organizers to school-supply organizers, Neatnix has the solutions to keep your personal items organized and away from prying eyes.
- Communicate. Even if she brought six suitcases, your roommate left her crystal ball at home, so don’t expect her to read your mind. Politely let her know if something is bothering you. If you don’t like her borrowing your clothes, tell her you’d appreciate if she would ask next time. This will help avoid building resentment that could explode in a nasty argument.
- Agree on the rules. Establishing a set of house rules will help avoid misunderstandings down the line. This doesn’t have to be a big ordeal; choose the issues that matter most and decide on boundaries. Cleanliness, overnight guests, and late-night phone calls are all hot topics. Remember to be considerate of each other’s needs and differences, and that compromise is key.
- Accept you don’t have to be besties. Though your roommate will be the first person you meet at college, she may not be your closest friend—and that’s OK. The goal is to live the next nine months in harmony, not pick out wedding dresses together, so don’t feel pressure to start a lifelong friendship. If friendship blossoms, fantastic, and you’ll have a ready-made roommate for next year!

